To Mary Jefferson Eppes
Washington Oct. 26. 1801.
My ever dear Maria
I have heard nothing of you since mr Eppes’s letter dated the day sennight after I left home. the Milton mail1 will be here tomorrow morning when I shall hope to recieve something. in the mean time this letter must go hence this evening. I trust it will still find you at Monticello, and that possibly mr Eppes may have concluded to take a journey to Bedford & still farther prolonged your stay. I am anxious to hear from you, lest you should have suffered in the same way now as on a former similar occasion. should any thing of that kind take place and the remedy which succeeded before fail now, I know nobody to whom I would so soon apply as mrs Suddarth. a little experience is worth a great deal of reading, and she has had great experience and a sound judgment to observe on it. I shall be glad to hear at the same time that the little boy2 is well. if mr Eppes undertakes what I have proposed to him at Pantops & Poplar Forest the next year, I should think it indispensable that he should make Monticello his headquarters. you can be furnished with all plantation articles for the family from mr Craven who will be glad to pay his rent in that way. it would be a great satisfaction to me to find you fixed there in April. perhaps it might induce me to take flying trips by stealth, to have the enjoiment of family society for a few days undisturbed. nothing can repay me the loss of that society, the only one founded in affection and bosom confidence. I have here company enough, part of which is very friendly, part well enough disposed, part secretly hostile & a constant succession of strangers. but this only serves to get rid of life, not to enjoy it. it is in the love of one’s family only that heartfelt happiness is known. I feel it when we are all together & alone beyond what can be imagined. present me affectionately to mr Eppes, mr Randolph & my dear Martha, & be assured yourself of my tenderest love.
RC (ViU); addressed: “Mrs. Maria Eppes at Monticello near Milton”; franked; postmarked 27 Oct.
A Former Similar Occasion: after losing a newborn daughter in early 1800, Maria suffered from an abscessed breast, fever, and inflammation. For her condition and its debated remedy, see Vol. 31:286n, 368, 389–90, 415, 440.
Mrs Suddarth: Martha Suddarth, the wife of William Suddarth and the sister of General Thomas Sumter, was a respected midwife and nurse in Albemarle County. According to TJ’s financial records, he ordered payment to her for medicine on 20 Sep., the day his grandson Francis Eppes was born (Woods, Albemarle description begins Edgar Woods, Albemarle County in Virginia, Charlottesville, 1901 description ends , 323; MB description begins James A. Bear, Jr., and Lucia C. Stanton, eds., Jefferson’s Memorandum Books: Accounts, with Legal Records and Miscellany, 1767–1826, Princeton, 1997, The Papers of Thomas Jefferson, Second Series description ends , 2:1051).
1. Word interlined in place of “post.”
2. TJ here interlined “x.”